'Conflict' Articles
All creative activity has its opposite, but its opposite isn’t destructive behaviour. It’s counter creative behaviour. At the end of your time what will it matter that you were ever opposed if you fully expressed everything that was yours to express? It will matter of course, but not in a “visible” way. When your spirit jumps up against another’s like that, there is an opportunity for a cross pollination of energies. If someone destroys something you value, you can see what their spirit is trying to say in the aftermath when the dust settles. Because if you aren’t still fighting them, they will create the circumstance they were seeking. You might even discover you like what they created, and just needed to sidestep the bull.
“Whenever you’re in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is attitude.” William James (American Philosopher and Psychologist, leader of the philosophical movement of Pragmatism, 1842-1910)
“Conflict is the beginning of consciousness.” M. Esther Harding
Conflict Is Perception
Most people see conflict as drama and feel it there moral duty to avoid it, but you can’t avoid conflict. You are very likely involved in more conflicts than you currently perceive. It’s only your perceptions that bother you. I’ve often had people comment on an interaction after the fact that they saw as a conflict, and I just saw it as an exchange. That is a perception that can be changed. The drama is in our own thinking that some things are more important than what you are doing right now? Yes, that would be the drama. To say… Seek More
Understanding Conflict
Conflict is not an easy thing to understand. If one can recognize that it is a matter of opinion, and that it isn’t necessary to agree. Most of the ways you get “wronged” are in fact not about you or your well being at all. I love a good debate. I have learned it is ok to have friends that don’t agree with my ideas. We can argue and still be close friends. It’s perfectly alright to have disagreeing friends, even beneficial which you do need for your own individual well being. I find though that debate can deplete or misdirect… Seek More
Choice In Conflict
Let’s get a bit wild. Let’s say you have a haunting. How many of you follow this research? Ghost hunters anybody? I’m not a hunter, but I believe in them and I like shows about haunting though I sometimes question the accuracy. The accuracy is specious, but I’m just checking if we have a perceptual model here I can use. Hauntings are generally viewed as an invasion by humans. Even though there is no physical challenge to their place or well being, the presence of this haunting is still greeted with disturbance. Which by the way creates an astral turbulence,… Seek More
Third Option
Perhaps more explanation of the third “win-win” option? That I can do. You have your ego, and your publicly perceived self. For most of us these two things don’t match up. Whenever someone comes into conflict with you, they are dealing with your “public image” which is actually more connected to your natural/physical presence. So often their arguments and negotiation efforts with you can seem to make no sense. You have the place you think you have in the world, and you have the place others think you have. You lose a lot of power if your inner perception doesn’t… Seek More
Dealing With Conflict
One of the members of ‘One World, Many Paths’ seemed to use the group as a pulpit. He has very strong opinions. The funny thing is that he actually does know what he is talking about if you give it the test of time and let it play out. It’s just the way he comes across that is uncomfortable. He seems to be after the negative response. I accept he is on a path he believes in. It’s fine, but there is a certain air of superiority I don’t like. How does one deal with a person who brings up negative feelings?… Seek More
Reality Checking In Conflict
I’ve noticed how some things I’m fine with, and others will drive me nuts, and I’ve wondered what’s the difference between them? The things you are fine with though you don’t know why, are consistent with your brains “reality checking” mechanism. All of our minds engage in this process. It’s a necessary behaviour for survival. If all seems peaceful and quite as you cross the road and then suddenly you hear a loud engine sound, you must indeed look to this engine sound. Rapidly assimilate what it means and act without thinking. Thinking is actually an overrated faculty. This reality… Seek More
Magical Insight
The four states of matter themselves seem to exist in tension, seemingly destroying each other. But for water “destroying” fire (read “transform), there is no destruction. Destruction is not even possible. Now let’s apply this to impersonal conflict. Instinctively, we don’t make any choice for the purpose of destruction. The subconscious mind doesn’t even have the ability to conceive of it, let alone prompt us to do it. So when someone seems like they mean to destroy you or something of yours, is that in any way an accurate interpretation? We’re just not seeing their creation? Not seeing their “spirit… Seek More
Ways Of Acceptance
People get very hung up on “who they are”, and protest the unfairness of others not realizing who they are. For some people getting angry is actually quite functional, for others it isn’t at all. But I ask you, are we entitled to dictate an ego to others and insist they accept it? (Ego = self image.) Entitled or not, many attempt this and fail and bemoan their failures, but they never need have failed like that. The world extends an opportunity for you to succeed at anything and does it all the time. But it isn’t “me”. Whatever story… Seek More
