'Respect' Articles
We are truly respecting someone when we are respecting their spirit, which does often go beyond their awareness. Respect as we are taught it is if I say blah, you say blah, because you are repeating after me. You are “following” me. If you do this do you actually respect me? Do you respect yourself even? Responsibility or response ability is what I feel is necessary for real healthy respect. Respect is seeing the common ground.
“Men are respectable only as they respect” Ralph Waldo Emerson (American Poet, Lecturer and Essayist, 1803-1882)
“There are two sorts of affection – the love of a woman you respect, and the love for the woman you love” Arthur Wing Pinero
“He who wants a rose must respect the thorn.” Persian Proverb
With Respect
I feel respect is a very confusing thing. Mostly, when people tell you to be respectful, it’s usually advocating a sanctimonious attitude toward the social consensus. It doesn’t even begin to scratch the substance of personal responsibility. Respect … or else. This “or else” attitude seems to breed a lot of passive aggressive contempt in the larger part. I often ask “or else what?“. They don’t have good answers. Oh true, they don’t have good answers, because they know the “or what” is petty. An example of sanctimonious attitude would be blind patriotism. We hear a lot of that stuff… Seek More
Respect of Being
You can see a political leader, or wealthy person, and not respect them when you see what is really there, even though convention in society is to respect this person. Is there virtue in being exhorted to extol an unhealthy parasitical relationship with authority? Extol/respect, venerate. People worship money and the money maker, and don’t see the Te. What are we usually told we must respect? Authority. And this authority is based on the “golden rule” is it not? As in those who have the gold make the rules? Te is the natural way a thing is. It’s substance. Te… Seek More
Common Ground
Let’s get a bit more personal. I’m in a relationship. The Native Americans respected the creatures they hunt, but they still ate them. If in my relationship I were not willing to in a sense “eat her” and respect what she does and can give me, how healthy would our relationship be? There would be separation. I’ve noticed how people put another on a pedestal in a relationship and call it respect. It’s not good. If I were too busy respecting her to give her a hug when I feel moved to, what good would that be? Being in awe… Seek More
Respect vs. Fear
R eally E xpressing S o P eople E ngage C ommunication T ies ~ DonJuan Writer Respect is an emotionally charged topic, and who hasn’t experienced some negativity in the name of “respect”? If it’s an inherent good as we conventionally know it, then why would we experience any negativity at all? I had a conversation with my Dad once as a teen responding to his statements on respect. I was very honest, and I still am just more mature in my honesty now, and I told my father I didn’t have respect. What I had was fear. His… Seek More
State of Knowing
I am talking about a respect that stems only from awareness, and empowers choice rather than making you feel you must do only one thing. Awareness means knowing? Yes. A knowing from being and respecting being of others. Being is not out of order, but we are taught to think, and we are taught thoughts of respect which are thoughts of ego. In Taoism, they have a term. Te. Loosely translated as virtue. It‘s symbolized by the concept of the uncarved block. The virtue of a thing of itself, and not seeking a virtue it doesn’t already have. We get… Seek More
