'Worry' Articles
Worry is worthless. Worse than worthless, it’s damaging. Concern plays a part in decision making, not worry. Worry just cripples it. The mind is tremendous. Life is a state of mind, and your focus will shape your whole reality. Don’t worry about being, just be. When you speak just speak. When you act just act, and just be.
“There is a great difference between worry and concern. A worried person sees a problem, and a concerned person solves a problem.” Harold Stephens
“Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow, it only saps today of its joy.” Leo F. Buscaglia (American guru, tireless advocate of the power of love, 1924-1998)
“If you can’t sleep, then get up and do something instead of lying there worrying. It’s the worry that gets you, not the lack of sleep.” Dale Carnegie (American lecturer, author, 1888-1955)
Habit of Worry
If a person is a worrier, though it’s seen as neurotic, it’s also sort of respected. Supposedly it’s the way to be deeply concerned about people and things. This isn’t in any way true, yet people treat it like a badge of honour. It is supposedly a thinker who worries. How many mothers are told to worry about their kids? If they don’t, they are bad mothers. Yes, they are told that. I get weird looks if I just shrug about the state of the stock market. Yes, that reaction isn’t “being responsible” in the world of finance. You supposedly… Seek More
People Are
Aren’t people basically just selfish, and talking about all this stuff a bit of a waste of time? Hmm, my son has a strange habit. When I take him out to eat he will order something he wants, then he will want to feed me parts of it. I sort of don’t want whatever he’s offering, but I accept it anyway. People are a lot of things, and a selfish stance is a commonly learned behaviour. It isn’t necessarily the nature of who we are. So having a sense of self doesn’t mean you are selfish? Having a sense of self… Seek More
Horse Sense
Someone said to me the other day that they ‘reason’ their way out of worry. Do you think that can work? Reasoning your way out of worry? No. Worry patterns are habits of thought, and a logical process can seem to justify a worried stance. Worry is really only avoided by a recognition of your connections, and acceptance isn’t necessarily disempowering, rather much the opposite. In worry, you sit and worry about how things aren’t arranging themselves to your desires, your expectations. With acceptance, you adapt to the thing you might have worried about, and may very well find you… Seek More
Adapting and Learning
We can adapt and we can prevent ourselves from acting on our own natures, thus making us fail to adapt. When you are doing things you’re not sure of, don’t just do something, sit there. If you are worrying, don’t just sit there do something. Don’t worry about if it’s wrong. You have an innate understanding you might not have noticed before. I promise it’s there. Worry is about asking questions of why? Yes, and whatever you find upsetting is upsetting not because it holds some secret truth, quite the opposite, it’s upsetting because it has little or no truth.… Seek More
Thought is Energy
Why does stress affect us so physically? You feel tense and out of breath. What is triggering that? There isn’t mind and body, there is only mind. The cardiac nerve plexus is a primal brain, as is the enteric nerve plexus, and they still function as brains even if we don’t want them to. Is it a primal behaviour, like reacting to loud noises? Oh yes, a worrier evaluates too much as threatening. The “other brains” believe it, so the body gets ravaged with changes that it doesn’t need. Fight or flight responses when they aren’t warranted. Getting the body… Seek More
Defeat in Worry
Worry is a very common mental habit, but it doesn’t add one bit to our effectiveness in dealing with things. We are encouraged to worry by social reinforcement. It’s supposedly how we show interest and investment in things, that we really care and are concerned, but generally it warps our presence in any situation. Can you give an example? Hmm, well example, you are talking with a friend and they are very upset. Maybe recently lost a loved one. If you worry about what is right to say, your tension will likely be evident, and make the person who suffered… Seek More
Conquer Worry
What if we seek comfort from food or substance as a way of dealing with worry even though we know we shouldn’t? That is a mixed worry response. Your instincts are still in a sense good, but we sit and brood. If you are busy in self expression or engagement with life, make that your first concern. Then if a worry comes up you won’t sit and worry about it. If you give yourself permission to make mistakes, you will also take proper actions. Thanks, I know what I should be doing, but find it hard to take the advice… Seek More
Way Out
In truth, there is no such thing as ‘no way out’. In Taoism they compare any situation to a storm. The storm is far more powerful than any human being. If it can’t persist then how can any block be permanent? Seas weren’t permanent, we call them deserts now. But if we accept a block for now, we will free ourselves to still act, still grow. Nothing about the “worry” will go away while we are worried about it, but when we come back later after still having acted and grown, we may find that really we can get past… Seek More
